You’re not broken you’ve been conditioned
From childhood, every song, movie, ad, and social post whispered the same lie:
“Your worth comes from women.”
“Get the girl, and you win.”
“No attention = you’re a nobody.”
That lie? It’s weaponized against men. And it works — it keeps us chasing validation like dogs chasing cars.
What you’re feeling isn’t weakness. It’s withdrawal from a validation addiction.
What’s Actually Happening in Your Brain
- You’re addicted to dopamine spikes from female attention.
- When you don’t get that hit, your brain tells you: “You’re failing.”
- Then you scroll, chase, message, fantasize — hoping to feel worthy again.
But here’s the truth:
It never lasts.
And every hit costs you more — time, money, peace, self-respect.
Step 1: Interrupt the Pattern
This isn’t about hating women. It’s about loving yourself more than the craving.
Immediate Breakup Rituals:
- Unfollow all thirst traps and attention-bait accounts
- Stop liking, DMing, or reacting to women online — cold turkey
- Block her number if she’s only feeding your addiction, not your purpose
- No dating apps for 30 days minimum
- Set a hard rule: No chasing, no scrolling, no simping
Step 2: Reprogram the Value System
Right now, your brain thinks:
“A woman texting me = I matter.”
“A woman sleeping with me = I’m a man.”
“He has a girl = he’s better than me.”
All lies.
Replace that belief with:
“Peace > attention.”
“Silence = clarity.”
“Power is found in restraint.”
“I’m not hard to love — I’m hard to manipulate now.”
Step 3: Transmute the Energy
That craving? That hunger? It’s fuel — you’ve just been pouring it into the wrong engine.
Put that energy into:
- Lifting every day — no excuses
- Learning high-income skills (copywriting, investing, sales)
- Building inner calm — breathing, journaling, walking in silence
- Earning — grow your money, not your inbox of ghosts
- Your mission — not their opinion
You’ll realize:
“She isn’t the reward. I am.”
Step 4: Face the Trigger & Neutralize It
When you see guys with women and feel inferior? That’s the wound talking.
But flip it:
“He has a woman. Cool. I have discipline. That’s rarer.”
See a couple? Don’t judge. Just observe. Then shift inward:
- “Am I better than I was yesterday?”
- “Did I stay solid today?”
- “Did I grow stronger, richer, or wiser?”
Now you become the prize — not someone auditioning for approval.
Step 5: Practice Real Detachment
Detachment isn’t hating women. It’s not needing them to feel worthy.
- You can appreciate beauty without wanting to own it.
- You can be single without being in suffering.
- You can be at peace without a phone buzzing at 11PM.
Detachment is:
“I desire nothing — because I’m already full.”
Daily Routine to Rewire the Mind
| Time | Action |
|---|---|
| Morning | Cold shower + workout (conquer weakness) |
| Midday | Read 10 pages of something that grows your value |
| Afternoon | Journal 1 truth you’ve avoided |
| Evening | Reflect: “Did I chase or build today?” |
| Weekly | One “dopamine fast” day — no socials, no triggers |
Affirmations (Speak These Aloud Daily)
- “I am not my urges. I am my discipline.”
- “I don’t chase women. I chase mastery.”
- “No woman can complete me — only I can do that.”
- “I am peace. I am power. I am enough.”
- “I don’t beg to be chosen. I choose myself every day.”
Final Word: You’re Evolving Now
This isn’t about “getting over women.”
It’s about becoming a man no longer controlled by women — their praise, their presence, or their absence.
When that switch flips, you don’t lose attraction —
You gain freedom.
You gain time, wealth, and strength.
You gain you back.
And eventually, when the right one comes along — if she does —
You won’t need her.
You’ll choose her.
And that’s power.